Phase 5 - Don't take the law into your own hands

So months passed and deciding what to do was something I needed to think about. Nothing was changing. No efforts were made. Oh sure, I was going to therapy, but for myself at this point, no longer for the marriage. Honestly, I didn't see the point in being the only one putting all the effort into something that didn't seem salvageable. After all, if he wasn't going to try to make it work, why should I. This was a partnership, so it only made sense that we should work on this together. But that wasn't going to happen.  Honestly I knew what needed to be done.  Almost a year had past since he'd been asked to go.  Heck, it went as far back as that day when Diego was sick.  Maybe not the best way he handled that situation.   Maybe it was just an excuse for something else, who knows.  What I did know is intention without action means squat.  So time to take some action.  A friend of mine recommended a lawyer... not just any lawyer, but her husband's ex wife's lawyer.  This lawyer, who now refers you to lawyers he's mentored, was quite successful for the ex wife.  He recommended a great lawyer for me.  This is not a cheap process, but I'll tell you what, it's money well spent.  There are so many forms and court dates to arrange, meditations...you want to get a lawyer.  And as for my ex, he tried representing himself; inexpensive, yes, but in the end had to retain a lawyer after all.  It is very difficult to hire a lawyer for the purpose of court appearances.  It causes delay, mainly because the lawyer was never prepared, having never met with my ex or reviewed the case before hand.  I am no expert when it comes to law, so I don't try to practice it.  Lawyer up!  It will save you time and money in the long run.