Neverending 'to do' list

And just like that, another soccer season is over.  This is my first Saturday without a game to go to.  I enjoy it very much when I see how much my son loves it, but I'm glad for this break.  But then again, is it really?  Now with only 25 left till Christmas I have so much to do!  But today, I'm taking it easy...and by that I mean, get my house in order.  Seriously, let's face it, there is always going to be stuff to do.  I have so many things out of sorts in the house.  So many articles on Autism to catch up on.  So many appointments and arraignments that I have to make for various events.  So much stuff on my DVR!  It certainly overwhelming for a single mom like me.  You would think with the boys at their dad's every other weekend, I'd at least get half of this stuff done!  But then again, when do I get a moment just to relax?  Oh well, there's always tomorrow!  One of these days I'll stop procrastinating...

Making the world a better place

Today I said goodbye to a dear friend of mine.  My "mom" away from mom so to speak.  She was my first boss at the company I work for now, but even as our jobs in the company changed, she always stayed a very good friend.  She always made herself available to me... to all of us really.  Anyone that ever worked for her, the few of us that remain... and anyone in the company.  Vickie, or as we lovingly refer to her "the warden", made the decision to leave our company for bigger and better things.  (eyes welling up now)  After 20 years with the company I wish her well in her future endeavors. 

Her mission:  Stop human trafficking

It is a selfless sacrifice.  Leaving her job to make a change in this world, relying on her faith.   I feel so honored to know someone so inspiring.

She is fully investing herself into Zoe International Ministries and will be running ZOE Children’s Home.  She has been to Thailand with her church several times and has see first hand the children that have been rescued from their nightmare.  

Am much as I'm gonna miss having her around the office, I support her with all my heart.  

If you would like to make a donation to support Vickie's efforts with Zoe, please go to Vickie's donation page.  

New Year...gettin' stuff done

I don't normally make New Years Resolutions, but after I spent this past holiday season procrastinating, it's time to git 'er done.  I started decorating so late for Halloween and Thanksgiving, and for Christmas I didn't even put out half of my decorations.  I'd just been feeling so disorganized already that getting all the decorations out just made me feel overwhelmed with putting thing in order just to get things out of order and then back in order...ugh, I'm getting a stomachache just thinking about it again :/  I'd spend the first part of the year hassling with my mortgage company raising my payment, and then was able to refi with another company, getting a lower interest rate AND lower payment with NO money down, so that was a load off!  But even then I was already consumed with things to do but too busy all the time to do anything!  Sigh.... but that's all behind me now.  I finally am getting my craft room converted to an actually usable craft room!

Printing station

Work station, for card making, scrapbooking, jewelry making or whatever splendidness I find on Pinterest :)

To the right is going to be a leaf table hanging from the wall for a wrapping station

Next I'm getting the boys room organized too, by making them a space to work on their homework and shelving to put their toys up...

Homework station for the boys' rooms

Disassembled an old bookcase to make a home for the Dinos

Old shelves that were in the garage for the "mans"

I even got the boys clothes ready for the week!  I know that's borderline OCD, but I don't have a lot of time in the morning to get myself ready, so if that saves me even a little bit of time in the morning I'm happy.  I'm already starting to feel a little less stressed than I did a week ago!

Still more to do, but I feel like I'm on the right track.

Elf on the shelf: misadventures

Jingle; that is his name.  He has one mission:  make sure the boys stay off the naughty list!  And how exactly?  With a little help from me of course.  It's my job to keep them believing, and if that means I have to keep coming up with silly situations to put him in, so be it!  Today we woke up to marshmallows on the living room floor.  It seems our elf has made a game of tossing them into D's "coffee" cup from atop the Christmas tree! Hehehe, what will he do next! :)

 

 

Soccer time!

Well it's happened... once again I've become a soccer mom/mamarazzi.  It's a busy life, but I love that the boys are trying new things and experiencing what it's like to be part of a team, while having fun of course!  It may or may not be their life long dream to be in sports, but at least they are having the opportunity to decide for themselves. 

This year, E has decided he wanted to try soccer.  I think seeing D play was encouraging for him.  Although he has limitation, he seems to be having  a great time.  He tries so hard, and this is a great way for him to work on his listening, focus, motor skills, and team work.  It's also important for him to expand his experiences. 

Raising money to kick some cancer ass

I decided to do the Light The Night walk again for The Leukemia & Lymphoma Society.  I've done it a few times in the past, and it's such an inspiring day.  This year I created "Team Survivor" and I had this idea to do a bake sale.  I asked my work if I could do this in our lunchroom and they said yes!  So I'm excited to do this and enlisted the help of some of my friends to help with packing the baked goodies :)  I'm looking forward to doing this for something that I am this passionate about. 

Oh no! Not humpday!

Wednesday is the busiest day of the week for me right now.  We've got Soccer games now 2 times a week and practice on Mondays.  Practices aren't too bad, but for some reason on game day Wednesday it is a mad dash!  Luckily right now the games have been at 6, but we have to be there at 5:30, so I rush home and dress D practically while he's having dinner.  Get all the gear; ball, shin guards, socks, cleats, water, camera... then out the door we go to the field.  Kids are all a little tired but a little silly after the school day.  Focus is hard on Wednesdays but we've all been at work and school and rushed out to the park for the game.  And we'll all do it again next Wednesday.

Game On!

Well, well, well, as if life isn't busy enough, let's add Soccer to the schedule.  Well I'm loving it!  A Soccer Mom, me??  Yup, it's happened.  Yeah, it's made life for this single mommy a whole lot busier, but that's OK.  D is really enjoying himself and E is a great supporter of his little bro, who says "good job brother!" after practices and after the first game on Saturday.  The first game.... wow, that was intense!  He even blocked a shot from the other team's best player!  I cheered, I yelled, I screamed, I took lots of pics and when it was all over I felt like I had just played!  My voice was practically gone.  It was a great day and all the practices every Mon, Wed and Sat, rushing home to get the kiddos ready and out the door for practice that last 1 - 1-1/2 hours then back home to get them bathed and ready for bed on top of all the other mom duties; homework, laundry, dinner, bed time rituals... tired yet?  I am.  But I'm OK with it all.  It's great to see him trying new things, making new friends, having a great time! 

Where to go from here...

Our worse fear has come true and I am so sad for my dear friend. Her daughter is gone, and there is nothing I can do for her to change that. They say everything happens for a reason, but I can't think of one damn reason that is good enough. They say we learn from our experiences, but I don't know what the effing lesson is here. They say hard times make us stronger, but who the hell decides we need to be stronger. This is truly a test of one's faith.

When I started the FB page for Bree it was for support for the family, as the only way I know, by sharing words and thoughts of positivity. Our little group of 40 members is now 900+ and growing. Do they all know Bree or her family? No. Which impresses me the most. That the story of this young, beautiful girl has touched so many. I've seen this group grow so much over the past 2 week. People who knew Bree or know the family, and people who don't. People from around the corner from where Bree lived and from miles away. And they've joined the page truly to express their sympathy for the family. Such a humane gesture during a time when there seems to be no humanity left in this world. I can not even BEGIN TO IMAGINE what Bree's parents are going thru. I wish I could do something to make this all go away for them.

♥ love to the two of you, the kids and the babies ♥

A fund has been established and people are coming together as well now, to contribute to the Bree’Anna Guzman Memorial Fund to help the family and Bree's two little girls in this next phase.

There is still lots to do. There is still a monster out there that needs to be taken off the streets.

Still missing...

I did something on Sunday I hadn't done in years... I went to church. My visits to church have been limited to weddings a funerals. As a child we always attended church every Sunday. But as I got older I didn't make an effort to go. And when things got tough, I found it easier to turn my back on my faith. But as the week passed and I am still unable to get a hold of my friend Darlene to find out the status of her missing daughter Bree, I felt like the only thing left for me to do was go to church. I've felt so helpless over this that going to church seemed like the right thing to do. Instead of turning my back on my faith, I decided to turn to it. I must admit, I'd thought of going back to church and accepting my religion again before this, but it felt a bit hypocritical. But under the circumstances I felt I should worry less about being judged and more about just doing what felt right.
It's been hard this week getting my head around what has happened. I never imagined that I would ever see a missing person poster and see the face of someone I know. It's so easy to look at a missing person poster and not take a second glance, but next time I will remember this feeling of helplessness, fear, anger and sadness.
Bree has a mother, a father, a brother, sisters, and daughters that all want her home. Pray that she makes a safe return.

Praying for Bree

It's been a rough few days. I found out my friend's daughter is missing. Bree, 22, has been missing since Dec 26th. She has two little girls, 5 and 1. Here mother Darlene and I have known each other for over 10 years and I can't imagine the ache in my darling friend's heart. I am so exhausted with grief over this but I know it's not even an ounce of the heavy heart my friend is feeling. I just can't even believe this is happening. I hope she finds her way back home soon. For my friend, her daughter and all their family, please send prayers and positive energies.

A message to parents of autistic children

My name is Lisa. I'm a single mom of two boys and my oldest son has mild/moderate autism. I work full time so I have plenty on my plate managing both work and home and fulfilling the needs of both my boys. Juggling it all can be challenging, but never dull! To make things more interesting, my co-parent seems to be in denial at times because he does not seem to fully accept the limitation our son has.

Some days I'm on the verge of tears, but my boys keep me up beat and going.

I knew very early on he was autistic. Before he was even diagnosed. I saw many characteristic in him that were similar to my cousin's child that has sever autism

When he was 2 he was not yet talking and was having meltdowns over not being able to communicate. To the point that he was bang his head on the floor. We learned sign language and that help A LOT! Since then, with the help of Regional Center, he was getting Early Intervention, Speech therapy and OT. Right now he is in 2nd grade and in the Special Day program at an LAUSD school and is receiving Speech, OT and AEP. I'm also trying to get services for ABA (applied behavior analysis)

Why behavior? He yells, a lot. And not really out of anger. He is very excitable and it can be overwhelming at times. Also, discipline. It can be pretty difficult for an autistic child to comprehend cause and effect and consequences. When I am trying to discipline he laughs uncontrollably and it can be pretty frustrating. Then I find that I get frustrated with myself for not having more patience.

You are NOT alone

My meet up group

So I created my own meet up group called Just Bead It! I'm hoping I can get some classes going on making jewelry. Should be a fun way to meet new people. I was never one for meeting new people, just kinda stuck to my own or within my current click. It was always a scary thing for me, but I'm over it. I have to get out there when the kids are gone with their dad. It's not good to just stay home doing the same 'ol thing. It's been fun meeting new people. Meetup.com has introduced me to people with interests that I have. I love the friends I have, but we don't always connect on everything. Nothing wrong with that.

bloggity blog blog

Come to think of it, I've been blogging for a while now...I started way back in 2001 when I was diagnosed with Lymphoma. Wow. Blogging had only been around for a few years then. I look back at my story now and it seems like ages ago! Well I guess it kinda was. 10 years ago on Nov. 13, 2001 I was diagnosed and so many good things have happened since then. But I will always remember because it reminds me that life is too short. Too short for regrets so don't let anything stop you, no matter what your situation is!

Welcome to the survivors club Susan!

On my way to work yesterday I was thinking about finally writing this blog. I've been meaning to for a couple of weeks now, but just hadn't gotten around to it. So I made a plan to start writing it. It's seems fitting that I made a point yesterday to start this because, of all days, we got a surprise visit at work from a lovely friend and fellow cancer survivor. It's no coincidence.

When I first interviewed at Regency 12 years ago Susan was the first person I met so I've known her from day one. And when I was diagnosed 10 years ago with Lymphoma, she was one of my many supporters of my Regency "family". Being the HR manager at the time, she handled all the "work" stuff as far as insurance, FMLA, disability goes, but she didn’t stop there. She made herself available on a personal level. As a friend. In our company wide meeting, the owner told us he had a special guest to speak to us, and in walked Susan with her husband David. There wasn't a dry eye in the house. It was great to see her in such high spirits. She spoke about being thankful; for the love, the support, the prayers, and the cancer. It's not an easy thing to do to come to terms with the diagnosis, but for me, it made the process less stressful. I see how Susan has been so strong in this process and that comes from her faith. She has said that God is ultimately in control in their lives and what a privilege it is for her prayers and the prayers of her supporters to be answer. I think it solidified her faith even more than I think she thought possible.

Last month, someone here in our LA office made a quilt for Susan and the owner of our company hand deliver it to her on her last day of chemo on 9/16/11. The quilt included 20 squares where the executive team wrote some words of prayer, encouragement and inspiration. Imagine my surprise when I was asked to also write a special note to Susan on one of these squares! I was so honored. I am also so very honored that I could be here for her as she was for me 10 years ago. The quilt also included untied pink ribbons and everyone in our building was invited to tie bows with the ribbons as a symbol of payer and support. It was a truly remarkable day.

So much to do!

I went to a scrapbook workshop Friday night. I took my mom and it was a lot of fun and it gave us that jump start we needed to get back into it. I started up again about 2 months or so ago, but had only completed a few pages in that time. This weekend I went full out. I started a book of studio pics of the boys which I will continue as I have pictures done every year. But I was able to start and complete what I had from the time Emileo's 1 year studio pics were done till present with both boys. Then I finally started the Sea World book from our trip in 2008 (yes, 2008!). It's about a 12 or 15 page scrap book which I nearly completed! I only have 2 pages left on that one. I can not wait to get more done. I really should set aside some time every week for this. It is always a work in progress and we are always taking picture.

I love when I get these little burst of creative ideas. I saw some fabulous ideas this weekend for rings and cuffs that I can not wait to get started on. So many things I just want to get started on and I'd much rather be doing that stuff than being at work some days!

About Meetup

I'm a member of meetup.com and it's a fun site that I found by accident. I had been looking for support groups for families with children with Autism and came across this site. It was a meet up group for play dates with other families so I joined. In the weeks that followed, I started to receive emails for local meet ups in my area with interested that I entered in my critera. Now I'm in several meetup groups including family oriented meet ups, photography meet ups, singles meet ups, women getting together meet ups, and scrapbook meet ups. What I didn't know about meet up is that it was all started after 9/11.

I received an email today from Scott Heiferman, Co-Founder & CEO of Meetup and it's an interesting story of how this came about.
Fellow Meetuppers,
I don't write to our whole community often, but this week is special because it's the 10th anniversary of 9/11 and many people don't know that Meetup is a 9/11 baby.

Let me tell you the Meetup story. I was living a couple miles from the Twin Towers, and I was the kind of person who thought local community doesn't matter much if we've got the internet
and tv. The only time I thought about my neighbors was when I hoped they wouldn't bother me.

When the towers fell, I found myself talking to more neighbors in the days after 9/11 than ever before. People said hello to neighbors (next-door and across the city) who they'd normally
ignore. People were looking after each other, helping each other, and meeting up with each other. You know, being neighborly.

A lot of people were thinking that maybe 9/11 could bring people together in a lasting way. So the idea for Meetup was born: Could we use the internet to get off the internet -- and grow local communities?

We didn't know if it would work. Most people thought it was a crazy idea -- especially because terrorism is designed to make people distrust one another.

A small team came together, and we launched Meetup 9 months after 9/11.

Today, almost 10 years and 10 million Meetuppers later, it's working. Every day, thousands of Meetups happen. Moms Meetups, Small Business Meetups, Fitness Meetups... a wild variety of
100,000 Meetup Groups with not much in common -- except one thing.

Every Meetup starts with people simply saying hello to neighbors. And what often happens next is still amazing to me. They grow businesses and bands together, they teach and motivate each other, they babysit each other's kids and find other ways to work together. They have fun and find solace together. They make friends and form powerful community. It's powerful stuff.

It's a wonderful revolution in local community, and it's thanks to everyone who shows up.

Meetups aren't about 9/11, but they may not be happening if it weren't for 9/11.

9/11 didn't make us too scared to go outside or talk to strangers. 9/11 didn't rip us apart. No, we're building new community together!!!!

The towers fell, but we rise up. And we're just getting started with these Meetups.

Yeah, I fight like a girl

I received a link to a wonderful site. I love the campaign, Fight Like A Girl! It's full of info and inspiring stories for not only cancer (of which I am 9 years in remission of) but for many different diseases. I hope you will join me in spreading the word. I fight like a girl and I'm damn proud of it!

Another school year begins.

The kids had their first day of school yesterday. I took the day off so I could be at there when Emileo was greeted by his teacher and find out who's class Diego would be in. It was a very exciting day for all of us. Kinder and 2nd grade; where has the time gone. I hope that I will always be able to take the first day back to school off. I just want to make it a special day for them and see them off to their next milestone in their school life. They were very cooperative getting out of bed (yay), had their breakfast, brushed their teeth and made their bed. I'm so proud of them taking on responsibilities.
Then it was off to school. Once we dropped off Emileo at the gate where his teacher was waiting for him and all his other students, we walked over to the auditorium where the Kinder teachers would be to take all the pre-school grads to their new class. He saw many of his friends there. One by one each teacher went to the front of the auditorium and started calling names. Diego would get so excited when he'd hear one of his old class mates get called up; and then slightly disappointed when he didn't get called. Me too. There are 4 kinder classes and he wasn't called up until finally the 4th group of kids. Thankfully there were a few kids from his old class.
What an exciting time it must be for them. I'm sure they were filled with a mix of excitement and nerves. Or maybe that was just me :)
Once the kids were off, me and mom ran some errands and meet back at my house so that we could pick up the boys. It was such a long day and I was wondering if it felt long for the boys too. While I was out I stopped at the market and picked up so donuts as a special treat. When we got to the school they were so happy and excited. They had a good day.

one day, at the swap meet

I am an amateur photographer. I take pics with little thought, just what looks good to me. I'm learning to edit photos with my software and want to learn more about composition and use it when taking pics. I've taken photo classes way back in the day when we actually used film, manually used aperture and shutter settings to achieve different effects, developed our own film with smelly chemicals, and exposed out images onto photo paper in a dark room. I want to learn to be a great photographer