Phase 1 - the breakup

"If he dies, it's going to be all your fault!"  That little phrase set off a slew of circumstances.  A chain reaction that has now resulted in d..d...d...divorce.  Wait, let me back up...Diego got pneumonia in Feb 2008.  It was determined by my ex that because I didn't put a blanket on Diego at night, he got pneumonia.  This was the first time I asked him to leave.... the first of 3.  After being out of the house for a couple of weeks, he said things would be different, so I gave him a chance.  Isn't that typical?  I've heard this before from women when they'd say "but I love him" and thought, you're so dumb!!  What are you thinking?  Well, I'll tell you what I was thinking.  I thought OK we're going work this out.  I can fix this.  We can fix this.  We're not going to become a statistic.  We are going to beat this.  Our family will be a family again.  Alas, words uttered over and over, like a broken record.  With each passing month new things would trigger an argument.  Petty crap.  It became tiring and demotivating.  Till eventually he was asked to leave for good.  It became peaceful and calm in the house again.  It was the first day of the rest of my life....again